By Tom Knox
“You don’t learn while you’re talking, you learn while you’re listening.”
That’s something I’ve said for years. Not because it sounds good, but because I’ve seen it pay off time and again. In my experience, listening isn’t just a nice soft skill. It’s one of the most powerful and underrated competitive advantages in business and sales.
People are constantly trying to be heard—at work, at home, on social media, everywhere. But in sales, the real wins happen when we slow down, ask the right questions, and listen to the answers. Not the surface-level stuff, but the concerns underneath the concerns. That’s where the value is.
When I say, "listening pays," I mean it literally and figuratively. If you're in sales, you know the temptation to start pitching the moment you sense an opportunity. But here’s the thing: You don’t learn anything while you’re talking. You don’t earn trust, either.
Listening gives you insight into what truly matters to your clients.
When you take the time to hear those things, you’re no longer guessing, you’re guiding.
It’s how you become more than a vendor. You become a partner.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned over the years is that trust is built when people feel heard. Not just acknowledged, but deeply, genuinely understood.
For example, a client may say they’re looking for “cost savings.” But if you’re really listening, you might realize what they’re truly looking for is predictability, stability, or peace of mind at renewal time. Those are very different problems each with very different solutions.
It’s easy to miss that nuance when you’re in a hurry to prove your value. But when you take the time to listen, you realize listening is your value.
At Pinpoint, this isn’t just a philosophy we talk about; it’s how we work. Our approach is centered around getting to the heart of what each client really needs. That doesn’t happen through assumptions or spreadsheets. It happens through intentional listening.
We don’t go into meetings with a pre-determined solution. We go in with curiosity. We ask questions. We listen hard. We learn. And that listening shapes every step of the strategy that follows.
Whether we’re working with a well-established law firm with plenty of tenure within their team or a fast-growing startup with a brand-new group of employees, our goal is the same: build smarter, more personalized benefit strategies that align with real-world challenges for Delaware Valley employers.
If I could give one piece of advice to anyone in sales, client relations, (or even in your marriage), it’s this: turn down your own volume.
So often, as high achievers, we’re taught that you should be the one with the answers and the subsequent action. But you don’t need to have the fastest answer or the flashiest deck. You need to have ears wide open.
It takes discipline. It takes humility. But it works. Because when you make people feel heard, they remember it. They trust you. They come back.
At the end of the day, sales isn’t about convincing someone to buy something. It’s about understanding what they need and helping them get there.
So, the next time you're in a meeting, try this: say less, listen more. You might be surprised by what you learn—and by how far it takes you.
I realize that I’ve contradicted myself by telling you what to do in this blog. But I’d love an opportunity to follow my own advice. Send me a message on LinkedIn. I’m ready to listen.